Everywhere I go I see them

Published 15 days ago • 1 min read

Hey!

I just got back from a trip to my Dad's and I have to tell you this story...

So my friend sells Volvos and last week he got a Subaru on a trade-in he thought I might like. You know - practical, safe, hippie-old-lady vibe.✌️So of course I went to drive it. And of course, sitting right next to it was an XC40 Volvo that I absolutely fell in love with. Obviously, I drove that too. 🤦‍♀️

Now everywhere I go, all I see is XC40s. The whole drive there and back, I swear every other car was THAT car. It's like they multiplied overnight, except they didn't. They were always there. I just never had a reason to notice them before.

That's not because of the car. That's because once our brain locks onto something, that's all it shows us.

The same thing happens the moment you start searching outside yourself for the answer to pain that lives inside you. Google it or click on it once, and suddenly it's everywhere - betrayal trauma, how to heal after narcissistic abuse, why can't I move on - and the more you search out there, the more out there it stays.

It's showing you where you're looking. And as long as you're looking out there - at what happened, at why they did what they did - that's the answer you'll keep getting. Everything you never wanted to know about someone else. Nothing about why YOU hurt so badly - still.

What would change if you turned the search around, toward YOUR why?

Oooh, I'd love to know what just landed when I asked that. Just hit reply.

With love, Kate 💗

Kate A. Bares | Soul Integration Method™

Inside is the way out. ~ Kate

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