Reader, I don't know what it is about the onset of summer that feels like a big exhale, but I love it! When my kids were growing up it meant FREEDOM! We could stay up later, play longer, and explore further - which also meant a little more breathing room for Mom. I remember the first summer I decided to reduce my work week to 3.5 days. As a business owner and single mom, it was a little scary, but I just wasn't willing to miss any more time with them than I had to. They're grown now with kids...
12 days ago • 1 min read
Reader, it's messages like these that bring me to tears. Every. Single. Time. From M, after her Sacred Shiftâ„¢ session: "Kate, I cannot adequately explain the feelings I had yesterday. Holding that 4 year old me in my arms was unbelievable. So much comfort, so much love, so much relief running through my heart and soul. It was amazing. The freedom I experienced overwhelmed me. It makes me cry just replaying it over in my mind. Such a weight lifted from my mind and body. I slept like a safe,...
18 days ago • 1 min read
"I saw a meme the other day that said the older we get, the uglier we're willing to go out in public. 🤣And it's true! After I mowed my yard and washed my car and bathed my dog, I took a shower and still needed to run to Target, but I just couldn't bring myself to put anything on my face I'd have to take off again later. Is it just me or is that SUCH a pain in the ass? 🙄I got hungry while I was out so I took myself to dinner - and here I am. It's quite liberating! There's something so magical...
25 days ago • 1 min read
Hi my friends, thank you for the replies to my last email - your stories reminded me why I do this work. Thank you for trusting me with them. Six years out, so much is more clear than when I was in the thick of it - especially how many women have been there, or are stuck there now. They feel like they've lost a part of who they are - they don't recognize themselves anymore and they're not sure when or how it happened. Or they DO know, but they don't know how to get back to her. That...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
6 years ago today, my life was permanently and perfectly changed. And it was the bravest and hardest thing I've ever done. One month before, I sat on the floor in front of my husband, having had enough of the silent chasm between us. Three weeks of walking on eggshells, waiting for another round of shut down/shut out mode to pass. I'd finally realized after almost a decade, that it happened in cycles, although I didn't know why yet. This time felt different - more harsh. Maybe it was the...
about 1 month ago • 3 min read
I want to tell you about Courtney: She came to me about a year ago and couldn't tell me what was wrong - only that she couldn't stand to be in her own skin. She was exhausted in that bone-deep way that sleep doesn't fix, and it was showing up everywhere - in her relationships, her work, her withdrawal from the people and things she loved. She knew something was very wrong, but she had no idea what or why. Here's what I find, almost without exception: the thing that's keeping someone stuck...
about 2 months ago • 1 min read
Reader, I want to tell you about Courtney: She came to me about a year ago and couldn't tell me what was wrong - only that she couldn't stand to be in her own skin. She was exhausted in that bone-deep way that sleep doesn't fix, and it was showing up everywhere - in her relationships, her work, her withdrawal from the people and things she loved. She knew something was very wrong, but she had no idea what or why. Here's what I find, almost without exception: the thing that's keeping someone...
about 2 months ago • 1 min read
Reader, I have to share what just landed in my inbox from Dee (with her permission): "Kate, Wow! I (she) feels heard! So completely that it seems unreal. I wrote down the exercises and will start immediately. You said something like 'you have to show up' - or that's what I wrote down - and my immediate thought was 'but who AM I?' That makes me so sad. I can feel where this has bound me and I can see that it will be work to unwrap the bindings. I am so ready. Thank you so much Kate! I will...
about 2 months ago • 1 min read
Reader, when someone comes to me with a problem they’re struggling with, the first thing I do isn’t to analyze it, but to ask them to drop down into how they feel about it - right now, in this moment. Just one or two words. Whatever's most true. Then I ask them to close their eyes, sit with that feeling, and ask it: how old are you? Whatever number comes first - before the brain has a chance to edit it - that's the one. Sometimes it's 5. Sometimes it's 3. Sometimes it's 8 or 12. That number...
2 months ago • 1 min read