6 years ago today, my life was permanently and perfectly changed. And it was the bravest and hardest thing I've ever done. One month before, I sat on the floor in front of my husband, having had enough of the silent chasm between us. Three weeks of walking on eggshells, waiting for another round of shut down/shut out mode to pass. I'd finally realized after almost a decade, that it happened in cycles, although I didn't know why yet. This time felt different - more harsh. Maybe it was the...

Reader, I want to tell you about Courtney: She came to me about a year ago and couldn't tell me what was wrong - only that she couldn't stand to be in her own skin. She was exhausted in that bone-deep way that sleep doesn't fix, and it was showing up everywhere - in her relationships, her work, her withdrawal from the people and things she loved. She knew something was very wrong, but she had no idea what or why. Here's what I find, almost without exception: the thing that's keeping someone...

Reader, I have to share what just landed in my inbox from Dee (with her permission): "Kate, Wow! I (she) feels heard! So completely that it seems unreal. I wrote down the exercises and will start immediately. You said something like 'you have to show up' - or that's what I wrote down - and my immediate thought was 'but who AM I?' That makes me so sad. I can feel where this has bound me and I can see that it will be work to unwrap the bindings. I am so ready. Thank you so much Kate! I will...