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Kate A. Bares

Nobody wants to talk about this

Published about 7 hours agoย โ€ขย 1 min read

Reader, you know how you can hear or read something that was there all along, but it finally clicks in?

I love that! It's music to my ears when someone says "Oh wow, I've never thought of it like that".

We can get so used to looking at something we don't even see if for what it is. Sometimes just a tiny tilt of our head can change the way we see it - that can change the way we think about it - that can change the way we feel about it - that can change our damn life! ๐Ÿ’ฅ

I still remember the day I realized I was codependent - I felt like I'd discovered GOLD! I wanted everybody to know about it because we were ALL doing it - I could see it everywhere, in every one of us. This was gonna change EVERYTHING!

It wasn't "Omg, I'm so ashamed I'm codependent"...

it was FREEDOM!

But even after all the work to let it go, it wasn't until the last decade that I finally fully understood the truth of what it really is and where it's actually rooted.

Okay, okay, it was more than a tiny tilt of my head that woke me up. But now I know how to get straight to it, so others don't have to keep suffering with it.

Nobody comes into the world codependent, it's what we learn. But what we know - the Truth of who we ARE - is still there on a more grounded, soulful level. Finding your way back to her is what coming home is all about, Love.

Here when you're ready for it.

Much love, Kate ๐Ÿ’—

P.S. I know, I know - nobody wants to talk about codependency, but once you see it, you can't unsee it - and it might be the thing that changes your life! Just sayin. ๐Ÿ˜‰

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