One shift and it's ON


Reader, I gotta share what happened since that shift I had on Monday...

I finally landed on my YES! 🀸

Backstory: I (unknowingly) lived with betrayal trauma for 5+ years β†’ I finally divorced and recovered β†’ 2 years later my anxiety and panic were off the charts β†’ I found parts of me I didn't even know I'd lost in the trauma β†’ I healed THOSE parts and finally came all the way back to who I AM β†’ I created a process that gets to those parts FIRST, so you don't get stuck in the aftermath of betrayal like I did.

And here we are. 😊

But here's where I've been holding back. I've hesitated to name "betrayal trauma" specifically, because I didn't want to exclude others this work also serves. In marketing, they call it "niching down", but I'm a terrible nicher and I've kept it pretty vague.

Then I built and launched my quiz a couple of weeks ago, as a way for people to see where they are and why they're feeling stuck. I called it, "Why Don't I Feel Like ME Anymore?" because I hear that so much from women I work with. And while it's definitely a by-product of betrayal for some - still vague.

And then, after I had that shift about my writing, it hit me: "Ooooh, this IS for the ones who've been through betrayal."

I've lived this one. It's devastating and disorienting and even years after, you can still struggle to feel like yourself. And that was it - that was my YES! This quiz is for women who feel stuck in the aftermath of betrayal and need a path back to who they ARE. And it's time to name it.

I love how that happens sometimes - something's right there but we can't see it until we're ready.

Truth is, my work serves humans - period. And no, I will never ONLY work with women who've been through betrayal, but betrayal trauma is an animal unto itself and needs its own kind of process, which is exactly what this quiz initiates.

If this hits home for you, I hope you'll check out Who AM I Now? - Rediscovering Yourself After Betrayal​

Whether you're in it now or stuck in the aftermath, just know that you can and will get to the other side - not just intact, but BETTER. πŸ’ͺ

With love, πŸ’—Kate

Kate A. Bares | Soul Integration Methodβ„’

Inside is the way out. ~ Kate

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