Reader, one of my greatest, brightest joys is when my 5yr old grandgirl sees me and runs screaming "Kaaaaaaaaakkkkiiii" and jumps in my arms. She squeezes me tight around my neck and says, "I love you, Kaki - I was missin you!" Melts. My. Heart. God, I love that kid. She came into my life at the very same time my husband was leaving it and I was so grateful to be able to just be present with her, in my role as Kaki, and not my role as...
8 days ago • 1 min read
Hey! 25 years ago today I signed the papers on this sweet house I live in. I was 40 years old, single mom with 2 girls, running my business out of my living room - and it was time. I remember my exasperated realtor saying it didn't have to be my "forever home", but I knew it would be. My only real stipulations were a front porch, trees, and a good school district, but we'd pretty much checked most everything in my price range off the list by that point. And then we walked into this one. No...
8 days ago • 1 min read
When I accidently discovered my husband's infidelity on our lovely vacation in Tulum - it wasn't just a mid-life fling I stumbled on. It was a long time affair with a married woman he'd been carrying on since before we even met! I kid you not. We were only 4.5 years into our relationship at that point - 2.5 years married. He'd carried this on through 2 years of courtship, dating, proposing, getting married, being married, integrating families, building businesses - we had a LIFE together. I...
11 days ago • 2 min read
Hey! Years ago when I talked about codependency, a lot of people reacted like I'd asked them to smell a dirty sock! I get it. Nobody wanted to claim it. But that's because of what we think it means, not what it actually IS. I dug out this little checklist - you know, in case you're wondering: You might be codependent if… …you've ever thought that if someone else would just CHANGE, you'd be happy …you've rescued someone emotionally or physically, only to later resent them for needing to be...
13 days ago • 1 min read
Reader, you know how you can hear or read something that was there all along, but it finally clicks in? I love that! It's music to my ears when someone says "Oh wow, I've never thought of it like that". We can get so used to looking at something we don't even see if for what it is. Sometimes just a tiny tilt of our head can change the way we see it - that can change the way we think about it - that can change the way we feel about it - that can change our damn life! 💥 I still remember the day...
15 days ago • 1 min read
Warning Reader - this one's a little raw. I was just with a client who had the rug pulled out from under her in a relationship recently, and she kept apologizing and saying she felt stupid for feeling so sad - that she should be able to shake it off - that other people have it so much worse. It broke my heart to hear her shame herself for how she felt, like it was an inconvenience. It was not. But that's what she was conditioned her whole life to believe - that she was "too sensitive" and she...
18 days ago • 1 min read
Reader, I gotta share what happened since that shift I had on Monday... I finally landed on my YES! 🤸 Backstory: I (unknowingly) lived with betrayal trauma for 5+ years → I finally divorced and recovered → 2 years later my anxiety and panic were off the charts → I found parts of me I didn't even know I'd lost in the trauma → I healed THOSE parts and finally came all the way back to who I AM → I created a process that gets to those parts FIRST, so you don't get stuck in the aftermath of...
20 days ago • 1 min read
I like to save podcasts and little mini-workshops for road trips and this weekend I was listening to one with Laura Belgray. WHO KNEW IT WAS GONNA CHANGE MY LIFE! I can't even tell you all the pro-tips she offered, because what shifted me was just one thing she said: WRITE LIKE YOU TALK. Don't edit, don't AI it. Just BE YOU. And whaa-laaa - I'm back! 💥 You really never know how one person's experience or guidance can open up a valve you didn't even know was shut! You gotta trust those nudges....
22 days ago • 1 min read
Ugh, make it stop.😩I've got gnats in my house and they're driving me crazy. They're everywhere - flying around my head when I'm trying to go to sleep or reading, or the worst, when I'm on a zoom call with a client, and I'm over here swatting the air like a crazy person. I've tried everything - I took all the plants out, got rid of the compost bin on the counter, poured bleach down the garbage disposal, threw away perfectly good potatoes in the basket, and I even fog bombed while I was away...
25 days ago • 1 min read