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Kate A. Bares

Time to Say Good-Bye

Published 8 months ago • 1 min read

Hey Reader,

I love experiences that remind me that my work WORKS!

Yesterday, I fired a contractor. (👆me joyfully waving buh bye)

All the triggers were there: Flipping the story, by-passing accountability, denying his own words, gaslighting, projecting, interrupting, attacking - followed by the typical suck-up apology text and "helpful" bs attempt to re-engage me (so he didn't lose the job).

Sound familiar?

This was after 5 days of minimizing, not showing up, and even - (wait for it...) telling me to "calm down" when I called someone else to find the source of a leak on the roof/chimney HE installed/repaired 6 months ago. (i.e. stopped waiting for him and moved on).

Nope. Done. The end. Buh Bye.

It felt soooo good to recognize what I was dealing with and take care of mySelf RIGHT THEN, without belaboring the decision or explaining myself. He was clearly already "in his place" - he didn't need me to put him there. 🤣

Just a clear, "No thank you, that won't be necessary, the insurance company will be in touch if they need anything from you." felt so much better.

🌟This is soooo different than how I would have handled this 5 years ago! 🌟

WHY?? Because I've Turned TOWARD my Triggers and I've done the work to heal them, rather than continue to outdated coping strategies - the ones that cause stress, anxiety and a shit-ton of codependent toxicity. 💩

Triggers aren't particular - they show up wherever YOU are, be that with a contractor, a coworker, a partner, child, parent, sibling, or even a complete stranger. (you know - that person driving slow in the fast lane?😫)

If this sparks something for YOU, let me know and I'll fill you in on the steps I took to get here! It WORKS - and it's not hard when you learn how, and you have the right support.

I got you!

So much love, ❤️

Kate A. Bares Soul Integration Guide | Codependency Coach Helping You Reclaim Self-Worth + Emotional Freedom!

"You're not broken. You're coming home to yourSelf." ~kab

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