"You're out of runway. Turn around." That's what I heard. I was in the middle of another panic attack - breathing through it, waiting for my nervous system to get the memo that the danger was over. Except the danger had been over for two years. That's how long I'd been out of the marriage - out of the chaos and manipulation and crazy making. Beyond the emotional trauma I worked so hard to heal. But there I was. 2am. Heart pounding. Completely stuck. And clueless why this was happening again....
12 days ago • 1 min read
Have you ever hidden something so well you couldn't find it? Now consider how you've done that with yourself. I know. That lands a little sideways - but just sit with it for a second. Here's what I've learned in 30 years of doing this work: Most of us who've been through emotional trauma, betrayal, or a particular kind of crazy-making - don't actually lose ourselves. We hide ourselves. And we hide so well for so long, that we forget we're the ones that tucked us away. So we go looking. We do...
19 days ago • 1 min read
Hi Reader and hellooo March! I love the month and this time of year - always feels like renewal and rebirth to me - and it's my birthday month so there's that. 😉 This year I'm turning 65! What?? I've never been one who dreads birthdays and this one is no different. It IS landing a little differently though... Medicare kicked in this week. I'm now at "retirement age" (although not retiring, thank you very much). And I am apparently officially eligible for Silver Sneakers. I mean... Silver...
26 days ago • 1 min read
Hey Reader, This has been on my head a lot lately, especially in this trust recession we're living in right now. There are people who think if you're feeling stuck and something's not shifting, you must be doing it wrong. That you should try harder, think differently, or just push yourself to move through it. I had a coach ask me once, when I was resisting the direction they were steering me, "Do you think maybe you're standing in your own way?" I sat with the question and realized they were...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
Hi Reader, Welcome to February's Soul Notes! I’ve been sitting with something and it finally clicked this weekend - mid coffee, of all places. ☕️ I’ve been stuck. Not in a “my life is falling apart” way. But in that way where you know something’s off, but you can’t quite put your finger on it. I kept trying to figure it out and shape it into something that made sense, but the harder I tried, the flatter it felt. Here’s what finally landed: I wasn’t stuck because I couldn't figure it out. I...
about 2 months ago • 1 min read
Hi Reader! I love, LOVE the energy of a new year - a clean slate filled with so many possibilities... But before I rush into setting intentions or laying out plans, I always take some time to bless the year I’m leaving - for everything it taught me, revealed to me, and refined in me - so I can carry that growth forward with clarity and aligned energy. Because here are two truths we often forget: What we do anywhere is what we do everywhere.And what we do consistently is more unconscious than...
3 months ago • 2 min read
Hi Reader, Can you feel that? That steady hum beneath the holiday rush - the one that sounds like something new is coming? December always feels like a sacred pause to me - even in all the hustle and bustle of the season (which I also love!) - there's an unmistakable nudge to slow down, listen in, and remember Who I Am beneath all the doing. It’s the space between the wisdom of the year’s lessons - and the pull toward what's to come. If this year stretched you, softened you, or cracked...
4 months ago • 1 min read
Hi Reader, welcome to November Soul Notes! This might be my favorite month! I always loved Thanksgiving growing up - I think because it was literally the ONLY day of the year that our whole family of 7 sat down and ate a meal together. 😊 Seriously - it was a big deal. That BIG-ass turkey was indeed the focal point of the meal, but all of us together was it for me. As an adult, it's long-since been a month I've dedicated to Gratitude vs the traditional story, so every year I host a sacred "30...
5 months ago • 1 min read
Hey Reader, When was the last time you said, “I don’t have time to…” or “I can’t afford to…”?If you’re like most of us, probably within the last 24 hours - or 24 minutes. 🙄 “I don’t have enough…” is a common component of feeling stuck, whether it's personal, professional, emotional, financial, relational, or spiritual. Beneath every version of that statement lives one sneaky, universal belief: lack. Not enough knowledge. Not enough experience. Not enough time, money, confidence, energy, love,...
6 months ago • 1 min read