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Kate A. Bares

F*** this!

Published about 15 hours ago • 1 min read

How many times have I said that?

Do you ever just want to throw your hands up and quit, because no matter what you do to fix something, you still feel stuck?

I know I have.

But that was before I really got the difference between "fixing" and growing. We're gonna grow whether we like it or not. HOW we move through that process is up to us.

We grow as we live our lives. We grow up, we grow in, we grow wiser. We grow through the good stuff and we grow through the hard, messy stuff that reveals the not-so-pretty parts of ourselves, TO ourselves.

It took me a long time to accept not only the reality, but the necessity of that. The reintegration of the parts I'd disowned, those shadowy aspects I oh-so-brilliantly created to survive.

I've lived most of my life trying to fix those parts, so I wouldn't be judged, or rejected, or left. In the process, I inevitably judged, rejected and left myself.

Truth is, those parts served and protected me when I needed them and they deserve their rightful place at the table of WHO I AM. Retrieving, reconnecting and reintegrating them with compassion and reverence has honestly been the deepest, most freeing work I've ever done.

Before I created the Soul Integration Method™ as my healing framework with clients, I used it in my own life to get back to ME. The one I was when I got here, before the false beliefs set in, before I picked up anyone else's baggage, before I decided I was anything less than how God made me.

Before I forgot I was love.

That's how my experiences grew me and shaped the work I do with YOU. I couldn't guide anyone back to who THEY are had I not walked that path myself. How I do that is the difference between growing and fixing.

If you recognize yourself in this, that's the first step. The Breakthrough Blueprint™ is the next one. It's $27 and will show you that part you haven't been able to get to - the one that needs freedom, not fixing.

→ Get your Breakthrough Blueprint™ and let's get started.

With love, Kate 💗

P.S. If you already know this work, is there someone in your world who would benefit from experiencing it too?

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Kate A. Bares | Soul Integration Method™

Inside is the way out. ~Kate

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