People could count on me

Published about 12 hours ago • 1 min read

Hey Reader,

Does this sound familiar?

I was 3 years post-divorce with a lot of good work behind me, ready to get back to my life - and I was completely STUCK.

Why was I so good at helping other people, but I couldn't figure out what was blocking ME?

I'd second-guess myself constantly. Replay conversations. Spend way more energy managing how someone else might feel than actually asking mySELF how I felt.

I was smart and capable and I could handle a lot. And - I'd completely stopped trusting myself.

30 years of this work and my own life experience has taught me that being strong and capable doesn't mean you don't need support or that you've got everything figured out. You can be really good at reading other people and still not hear the part of yourself that's screaming for your attention. 🙋‍♀️

That part of you doesn't need more criticism. She needs someone to help her find her way home.

Has it ever felt easier to show up for everyone else than to even know what you needed yourself? I'd love to know more about that.

Kate 💗

Kate A. Bares | Soul Integration Method™

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