Used to get me too

Published about 13 hours ago • 1 min read

Hey friends,

I want to follow up on last week's email about the woman who was rude. First, thank you for caring about me and sending so many kind words of encouragement. I'm good - really!

It happened several years ago and I'm actually grateful for it - it was important in my healing. Consciously choosing to go back as ME rather than that 6 year old girl shifted everything.

That's why I shared the story. You'd be amazed how many times our child self is on the scene - scared, overwhelmed, angry, anxious. You might also be surprised how much you scold and criticize that part of you with things like, "How could I be so stupid?" Or, "What's WRONG with me?"

Yep, it's your CHILD self that's taking the brunt of that, Love.🥹

When I ask my clients if they'd talk to their child or their grandchild or even a friend that way, they ALWAYS say no. Yet, that's how they're talking to that scared, little unregulated part of themselves. Gets 'em every time.

Used to get me too. And this is how I've healed.

I'm gonna talk about boundaries next time. Those were part of the story too - and they're not what you think.

'Til then, have a beautiful week and enjoy this cool weather. (hey, I'm in Texas - 80° is cool!)

With love, Kate 💗

Kate A. Bares | Soul Integration Method™

Inside is the way out. ~Kate

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